The Notion to Blog

Since Corner House, a “come as you are” club in Cape Town closed down, I’ve been searching for a worthy replacement of this once soulful, oblivious and therapeutic haven.

Its no coincidence that Oblivion in Claremont, Cape Town is where I had my second internet date at the very same club and where I proposed marriage.  After 5 years, I’m totally devoted to the same woman who is now my wife.

On many occasions as a married a married couple, we’ve frequented Oblivion to try to relive the abandon that Corner House offered.

Today is very likely the last time I set foot at Oblivion.

With pre-meditated platonic motive, I recently complemented a girl at Oblivion on her dancing skill on my way to the bar.  She coldly responded “why aren’t you with your partner?”

I should have replied “I was complimenting you on your dancing, not your looks.”

Its then that I realised what had been bugging me the past few visits at Oblivion.  Its a singles bar.  Where single folk go to pick up other singles.  Some go for fun but most of the young people that go there have their agenda written all over their faces.  I don’t blame the single people, some who are over 30 years old still searching for their soul mate.   Why would a single person want to waste their time on a person who is “taken”?

As a married guy, I don’t share their agenda and I can see why I would be a waste of their precious hitching time.   Hey, all I want to do is dance and enjoy the music without being seen as a weirdo looking to pick up single woman.